12 Things I Hate about Myself

pulling hairWe all have things we don’t like about ourselves, right? Here are 12 things I hate about me.

1. Smilies

I broke myself of using emoticons a few years ago. I felt they weren’t professional. Lately I’m back to using them more than I like. I don’t care about being not professional, but I’m starting to feel like a high school girl. Your thoughts? :)

2. Awesome

A client jokingly made fun of me for saying the word awesome all the time. I hadn’t noticed, but I do now. You know what, I really like that word. I am making sure I really mean it when I say it though.

3. Efficiency

I can be too efficient sometimes. It would take me longer to explain how to do a project than to do it myself. That limits me in hiring someone to help.

4. Micro-managing

Do you ever just want things done your way? Marriage has taught me there’s more than one way to do things and I need to accept that my way isn’t always the right way.

5. Can’t dance

Let me rephrase that; when I dance, people laugh, so I’m just assuming I can’t dance. Funny enough, I was part of a dance/singing group in high school. An early Glee club? Christine’s been looking for pictures but they’ve never surfaced.

6. I’m always right

I’m not, but I like to be. I have a feeling I’m not the only one. This drives my wife, Christine, crazy.

7. 80′s songs

While writing this post I’ve had at least five of them jump into my head. They’re not all from the 80′s, but close enough.

In one way or another all of those relate to this post. Don’t ask. What the heck is wrong with me?!?

I worked a lot of retail in high school and college. At some point someone decided 80′s music would be the best background for shoppers.

8.Frugal

Christine calls it cheap, but frugal sounds so much better. The pilot light to our gas fireplace usually stays off because it adds about $4 to our bill each month. Saving money is a good thing, but I usually take it too far. Christine usually hits the wiper blades for me when she can’t see out her side of the windshield. Each pass of those blades wears them down.

9. Lazy

I really am. You might not think so because of all the stuff I have my hands in, but I’ve actually coined a term for it. I call it “efficiently lazy.”

The definition is something along the lines of getting the most amount of work done while expending the least amount of energy. If I wasn’t so lazy I’d come up with a better definition.

10. Pleasing others

Why do I care so much about what other people think? You can see I’m working on that by publishing this list. :) Shoot, back to working on #1.

11. Love stories

Yeah, I might like them more than Christine. If she’s in tears I’ve probably been there hiding it for a while. I don’t think she’s found out yet.

12. Caring too much

Is this really a problem? I’ve ruthlessly limited the type of people I work with lately. It drives me crazy when clients pay me then don’t do the work I give them. Seriously. Why did you pay me in the first place?

I could never be a counselor. Listening to problems all day would drive me nuts. Time to get over them and do something with your life.

** This isn’t a knock on counseling, so no hate mail, please. I just can’t be one. I know several counselors and they’re changing some serious lives.

I’m not asking you to list what you hate about yourself, but if you’re moved, post away. I’m sure we’ll all make fun of you together.

photo credit bcymet

  • Christine

    I totally don’t agree with the lazy one. You’re only lazy when it comes to pushing buttons on an airplane or a computer. I don’t think you’re ever NOT doing anything. And if you cared about pleasing me you would quit singing the 80′s songs (actually all the songs) during Glee. Oh hey, let’s take dance lessons. It would be awesome :)

  • Anonymous

    great post again….you are motivating me to go there again!

  • http://www.simplyorganizedwithjill.com Jill

    I feel the same way as you do about #12. You are even more of a cheapskate than you dad. Not turning on the wipers?…That’s just crazy! Jill

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Yeah, you see my conflict? I’m trying to get better, I swear.

    Oh, you ever hear the Boys to Men song, I Swear?
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3o4o7x-HtQ

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    I can’t wait to read yours, Gregg. ;) Shoot, there I go again.

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Well the wiper thing is just really strong because I combine it with #9, being efficiently lazy. I make doubly sure it’s worth it before I lift my hand to the switch.

  • Dan Holterhaus

    I’m cracking up here Justin, haha. I understand #2 completely. I have those “go to” words. It’s funny how they change over time. Our “go to” words right now are probably different than one year ago! How awesome is that?!
    Dan

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Completely awesome, of course, Daniel!

  • http://twitter.com/RandellMark Randell Mark

    Justin,
    Thanks for another great topic.
    One of the things I hate about myself is that I can’t multi task. I could never be a Mom/Homemaker, When the kids were young my wife could answer their questions, while talking on the phone, while making supper, and remind me of an appointment I was about to miss. If I’m working on something, I need complete silence, and no one around me to distract me.

    Maybe that’s why it takes me so long to get things done…I think I need a few of those 80′s songs floating around in my head for inspiration.

    Thanks,
    Randell

  • http://www.liveitforward.com Kent Julian

    Justin,

    You can never care too much :) (Hope the smiley face is OK.)

    What I appreciate, Justin, is that you’re the real deal. When I think of Justin, I think of “authenticity.”

    Kent
    http://www.liveitforwrd.com

  • http://profiles.google.com/buckmanrandy Randall Buckman

    I’m moved, so now I post…

    WOW!!! Reading those made it feel like I was reading a post about myself, but some I like. Almost every single one I do or like.
    1) I use smilies and feel it maybe too feminine, but like them and use them anyway.
    2) My word is ‘Really?’, never noticed till someone pointed it out, oh well.
    3&4) Completely agree, have those thoughts too often.
    5) I don’t know if I can dance, but I really like dancing. I probably look very white. Makes Barb happy, so that’s a plus.
    6) Barb would agree
    7) I actually LOVE 80s music 8) Never did the wiper thing, but I find myself debating in stores over price differences of $1 or less. Is it worth the extra $.21 or am I wasting it?
    9) I actually think this one is true. I really feel like this is my biggest hurdle to overcome for starting and growing a business. I always get overwhelmed when I think about all the steps or things involved to accomplish a large project and so then I do nothing. This I really do hate!
    10) This is another true hurdle for me. Just being true and authentic, even around people I don’t know. I ALWAYS wonder what people are thinking or thought of me. I think that has to do with my ‘I’ part of my wiring 11) I am exactly there with you Justin. I never tell anyone that I like “chick flix”. Actually prefer them sometimes. I had way more friends that were girls than boys all through school. I would probably make a good gay friend, even though I’m not.
    12) I feel this exact way when I think about doing financial coaching. I do not want to waste my time. I want to see your results.

    That’s me for now:)
    Randy Buckman

  • http://www.liveyourgiftscoaching.com Adam

    Justin,
    Thanks for being vulnerable. It’s what makes you so likable. Sometimes its so easy to see our own flaws and other times so easy to think too highly of ourselves. I’m glad to know there is a fellow self loather out there. We’re all human, amazingly brilliant, full of flaws, and its pretty astounding that God loves us all so much. If I didn’t have “Promises Promises” stuck in my head I could probably come up with my own top ten list in no time flat.

  • http://bluecollarradionetwork.com James Dibben

    What a coincidence! I hate those same things about you!

    Okay, okay, just kidding. Great post, Justin. ;)

  • Anonymous

    #2 – I overuse all words of ‘exaggeration’. Awesome, amazing, unbelievable, massive, ginormous, etc. I get picked on for it too.
    #8 – I totally give you a thumbs up AND a high five for the pilot light thing. The wiper blade thing is a bit weird, though. ;)

  • http://profiles.google.com/buckmanrandy Randall Buckman

    OH Yeah! I too turned off our pilot light! That’s an extra date night a year:) SMILIE!!!!!!!!!

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    It’s amazing what a good 80s song can do.

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    I feel like crying, Kent. Is there a smiley face for that?

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Nice! No telling how much your wife will appreciate that, even though she may never say so.

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Oh, man. If there is a 13th, it would be price shopping for me. I can spend hours trying to save a few bucks. It makes no sense, but I want to know I’m getting the best deal.

    I just took Christine to Asheville last weekend. I’m not kidding when I say I put in about 30 hours researching where to stay and what to do. Mainly where to stay. Then Christine said she’d be happy in a Best Western? Really?!?

    We’re working on your number nine together. A lot of people find themselves there.

    By the way, here’s how to get your picture here, Randall. http://coachradio.tv/pic

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Those 80s songs can cloud your thinking, can’t they?

    I have no problem seeing other people’s flaws. That might make a good #13 for my list.

    Here’s how to get your picture to show up here. http://coachradio.tv/pic

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    James, this really made me laugh!

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    I never said I was perfect. :)

  • http://www.liveitforward.com Kent Julian

    Yeah…I don’t think so.

  • http://www.flurrycreations.com/theblog John Bergquist

    Ok, plenty to say here (one of the things that would be on my list, but you already blogged on that in your how to be a good commenter). Regarding emiticons, I use them more than I would like, usually to make sure someone understands the tone of a text or tweet. Awesome is a word I use way too much as well, something a co-worker stated. I need to do the same and make sure I use it when I really mean it. One last thing. The things you hate are probably the reasons I like you so much. Oh and yeah, admit it you have 80′s in your blood. Like myself and Eli Stone, embrace the truth and run with it!

  • http://twitter.com/jasonvandehey Jason Vandehey

    Wow, Hate is a strong word, but that’s why you picked it! Right?
    I hate how organized you appear to be via your webcam. Way too neat and tidy. Gives me shivers. :) :) :)

  • Anonymous

    Efficiently lazy sounds awesome! That sounds like a step up for me. You sure seem to get a lot done and I appreciate how much you share. I plan on utilizing some of your tutorials this week.
    I just discussed with someone how I didn’t like the pop up on your website, but I just x it out and continue on your site. On your podcast I heard you talk about it and how effective it is. Now I’m thinking of adding one to my site one day. You really do share a TON of information freely. Thank you for that.

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    You should see my living room right now. Not a pretty sight. My office is about the only thing I can control.

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    I’ve embraced it all, @johnflurry, but that doesn’t mean I (or especially Christine) like it. :)

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Welcome to the club, Sutton. We should make jackets.

  • http://twitter.com/jasonvandehey Jason Vandehey

    I migrate my mess to the Garage.

  • http://twitter.com/jasonvandehey Jason Vandehey

    The official 80′s song for this post: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QES-eQ4lR5U

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Wow, what a classic. Good choice.

  • http://twitter.com/agentmiller Kevin Miller

    I think emoticons are sissy. I’m buying you a rainbow shirt.

    Can I add something I hate about you? You don’t ever seem tired. I have a superman complex and expect to outdo everyone. But at our events or anything I’ve been to with you, you always seem up, got a smile on. Kinda pisses me off. When you get out here I’m taking you on a high altitude run till you frown and complain a little.

    With all that said, the highlight of my summer is you and your dear family moving here. I can’t wait.

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    I think elipses are sissy, unless you’re drawing something with them.

    o…o

    According to Wikipedia that means surprise.

    I’m up for anything you throw at me. Before and event a year ago my brother and I went up the Maroon Bells. 15 hours of climbing and I smiled all the way through it. You’ll never break that.

    You an scroll through and see the smile fading, but I’ll never lose the trademark.

    http://lukasavige.com/justins-colorodo-climbing-trip-2

  • Beth Jones

    I love emoticons (I’m a girl, so maybe that’s ok). I even found the most amazing app last night for my iPhone-emojicon-I can now do any kind of emoticon via text message-it had me up late last night playing with it until my husband finally told me to put it away! :) Loved this column, by the way…..

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Oh boy. I hope you never send me a text, Beth. ;)

  • http://www.tonywheeler.net Tony Wheeler

    Justin, I greatly appreciate the term ‘efficiently lazy’. Sounds about right! :)

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Sounds like you’ll be adopting it, Tony. ;)

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    Loved reading your list Justin! It cracked me up and smile as I see myself having many of those faults. 

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Perhaps they’re not faults? What if we got together and used them for good, Joe?

  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    So, we could become the (-: awesome(in my case, the word though) frugal caring people pleasers…. and change the world!

    And I’ll agree, they’re not faults but that’s the word that came to mind.

  • Anonymous

    This was an awesome read for my “mid-afternoon-break.” Ironically, I picked up on some of these this weekend! ;)   ;) yeah… I’m bad with the emoticons too.

  • http://www.VictoryChristianCoaching.com Marianne Clements

    Justin,

    About the Smiley face emoticon not being professional:

    While I was at AT&T, we used an Oracle product called ADI and users
    could do uploads to the Oracle database via Excel spreadsheets.  The program showed a Green Smiley face for each
    successfully uploaded row and a Red Frowney Face for the unsuccessful
    rows.  The attorneys at AT&T actually
    made us change the code to show Red and Green checkmarks because they thought
    the Smiley Face and Frowney Face were unprofessional! 

    Have a Victorious Day!
    Marianne Clements

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    That’s a funny story, Marianne. I can see attorney’s doing that. I don’t care about being professional as much as I care about just being me.

  • http://twitter.com/jwginn JW Ginn

    This was a great post Justin.  I especially laughed about the 80′s music.  At work, I always have a song of the day.  This week it was “Hurts so good”, “Maneater”, and “Shattered Dreams”.  I had two days off ;)  Thanks for sharing 

  • http://coachradio.tv/ Justin Lukasavige

    Glad you got a laugh out of it. :)